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You are driving me nuts! I can't stand it. Every time that I try to get close to you, you push me away. What is this a course in separation? First, you abuse me and accuse me of all kinds of crazy things. I'm tired of trying to explain to you and other people that I am innocent. Oh, you want to fight, don't you? Every time I talk to you, it ends up in some kind of big argument. You kick me out, then you invite me back in. What am I a YO YO?"


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The Three Month Intensive Plan

The entire plan is explained to you, based on the idea that you can learn about yourself and what works for you. In order for it to work, the plan only requires that one spouse agrees to participate. This paper and other reading materials are given to you. But, the exact plan is not described in this paper. The program requires a commitment to do the work and accomplish the appropriate changes. I'll explain the reasons why the two of you need a very solid block of time and space to exist between you, without any interruption whatsoever.

 

You will need to strictly adhere to the rule that there is absolutely no reason for the two of you to see one another, talk to each other on the telephone, exchange any kind of messages, visit one another or any other type of contact. Any violation of the command to separate completely will render the program unsuccessful because you have submitted to your own reactions. In that case, you will have to suffer inevitable consequences which usually leads to failure to resolve. All arrangements can be made without the two of you ever having to make contact with one another. Lawyers may be the only ones who can handle these contact matters. If you do not adhere to this program you can expect complete failure and the probability of divorce.

 

If for any reason you cannot or will not read the appropriate materials, I will teach and coach you on one or two principles at a time. You'll be required to spend about half an hour a day alone, without any distractions, doing the necessary self work and going through a retraining process. You may have to spend more than a half hour a day. You'll have to ask yourself how much time am I worth spending on, each day. You will be with you and your partner will not, at least in the physical sense. There cannot be any deviation or distraction from the absolute requirement of spending uninterrupted, undivided attention time with your self, every single day. This time will be spent in some sort of prescribed and evaluated method of self exploration, problem solving and introspection. You'll probably find yourself involved with methods and techniques that are unfamiliar. But, you will be required to master these experiential methods and the learning materials that accompany them.

 

You will have to get used to the idea that you may be spending considerable time on the floor, discovering appropriate positions that will allow you to gain access to the necessary altered states that bring about your transformation and the rehabilitation of your relationship life. You will have only you to deal with and how you can make your life, including your marriage, much better. This is a period of moving out, on an up. The old will have to give way to the new and your alone time will be your most precious currency.

 

There'll be certain binding rules aimed at ceasing and desisting from certain outside relationships during this very important therapeutic separation. This total separation will require abstinence from all other sexual experiences, dates, rendezvous or any other activities that distract from the task and purpose of this intensive therapeutic experience. You will need to see this experience as a Three Month Intensive Therapy Block or Module for Change.








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