"Am I capable of being loved totally,
completely and unconditionally?"
"For that matter, am I capable of
loving completely, totally and unconditionally with all of my heart, soul
mind and might?"
These are questions that you may want to ask yourself and if you are
brave enough, you might want to ask that of someone that you are deeply in
love with. This is a conversation that has to take place.
We have no measuring stick to quantify the degrees of love from zero
to infinity. So you will have to ascertain your present capacity for loving
and being loved. If you are having trouble and difficulty in your primary
relationship, it may be due to the fact that you may not be
loving enough or are being loved enough.
So how do we determine what is the absolute for attaining the
supreme sense of love? You will need to dig inside of yourself and ask your
self that question.
We are commanded through the prophet Moses to love the Lord your God
with all of your heart, mind, strength and soul. We are then commanded to
love our neighbor as ourselves. Think for a
moment about this concept, this idea, this secret
This message coming from divine sources is encouraging us and even
telling us that we are capable of infinite limitless love. So, how come
there is so much suffering in relationships and the world in general. What
Somewhere along the way, we as a people have lost the high way. But,
the good news is that in one way or another, we will be reminded that it is
necessary to dig deep into our souls and explore the infinite universe of
love. As that challenge grips your soul, you will be put into a position of
questioning your capacity to be loved and to be loving
in return. When you reach that absolute space of total unconditional,
compassionate and passionate love, you will be ready for the consummate
cosmic soul mate experience.
Question: I believe that my wife has borderline
personality disorder and I am trying to get her to go to treatment. What do
Answer: If you
look at it from the angle of absolute unconditional love, you will need to
ask yourself if you are capable of and deserving to be loved absolutely,
faithfully and without limits. If you are not capable of loving to that
extent, your partner will feel the pangs of being completely unlovable and
she will seek what she never fully received from her parents and believes
she is incapable of getting it from you. The presence of disorder in your
relationship is a powerful signal that your relationship has gone astray
and the two of you are heading in different directions. You can bet that
the extreme need for love is at the bottom line of this disorder in your
marriage. However, you are on a journey and hopefully you will learn,
explore and experience the deepest and highest realms of love. It's all
there and out there waiting for you to do the necessary work.
Question: Dr. Paul, have you experienced and do
you have this?
Answer: Yes, How else would I be able to talk