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by Paul J. Hannig, Ph.D. MFCC



The SECRET to Maintaining Love in your Relationships!

Love is a repository of the heart energy system.  It also has its dark side, which surfaces when love goes wrong or dies.  Three main elements are necessary for sustaining and maintaining a successful long-term love relationship.  Within each one of those elements, there are sub-categories and elements.To be able to maintain and sustain a long-term love relationship the following ingredients are necessary. 


          • Passion
          • Compassion
          • Companionship


Passion is the powerful, enthusiastic desire for a significant other. It is ardent, adoring and boundless,but it can diminish over time. However, conscious human beings do everything possible to keep passion alive and flourishing over the long haul.  Any diminishing of passion should be immediately noticed and restored to its eminent place in the relationship.  There are several formulas for maintaining and sustaining passion.  There is a 72 hour formula which suggests lovemaking every 72 hours.  There is also the three times a week formula for sustaining passion.  Conscious couples consciously negotiate passion fulfilling activities that fuel the fires over the duration of the relationship.


Compassion is the heart's capacity to show empathy, understanding and insight for the partner and the relationship.  The heart is also the center for beauty, harmony and mercy.  Conscious individuals practice this capacity at equal and reciprocal levels, while maintaining it and nourishing it for a lifetime.  Conscious individuals make it a point to become experts at understanding and fulfilling one another's most important emotional needs.  They are also experts at practicing deep emotional intimacy skills.


Companionship is the hallmark of friendship and accompaniment along all of life's endeavors, activities, challenges and adventures.  Companionship requires a maximum amount of time spent being in and enjoying the company of one's partner.  This can go on at an emotional level for an eternity.  If companionship weakens, the relationship experiences pain and sometimes that pain can kill the relationship.  Extraordinary time must be spent with the partner that overflows the love reservoirs.


What is the thread that binds these three key elements together? It's TIME. Time together is time well spent. As I quoted in my book "Sizzling Relationships: the 401(k) of Love":

"Think of your relationship as a Love Fund, as well as a Time Fund, where you

make deposits and investments of love, time and energy in order to increase

your Love Fund account. Remember, if you don't create and spend enough time

with your partner, your relationship will suffer and maybe even die. Passionate monogamy and sizzling relationships require a major commitment to making a

priority of spending large quantities of quality, passionate time together."

"Sizzling Relationships: "the 401(k) of Love"


It is hard to believe that millions of people get married every single day and very few have learned the fundamentals of marriage. It is common truth that you cannot master anything until you learn the basic fundamentals. Yet, our culture does not coach people on how to successfully navigate the mysterious waters of fulfilling, ecstatic relationships. Such matters are left to chance.


"Sizzling Relationships: the 401(k) of Love" is the definitive manual that takes the guesswork out of building and maintaining a sizzling marriage by providing very powerful and specific guidelines for its achievement. Make these marriage fundamentals the foundation of your relationship and take your relationship to new heights of ecstasy and intimacy. Now available as an E-book. For more info, click here ...

E-Books are now available!


"Coping with the Disorder"

"Coping With The Disorder" is a step-by-step guide on how to deal with and address personality disordered behavior, whether in yourself or others. Based on years of Dr. Hannig's expertise, it is an excellent, to-the-point manuscript filled with knowledge, techniques and powerful strategies. Narcissistic, Borderline, Obsessive Love, Paranoid Personality Disorder and more are covered in this remarkable volume.


No matter what disorder you are dealing with, this new manual will give you the techniques on how to heal yourself and/or deal with others that need help. Please don't miss out on this one! Now available as an E-book. For more info, click here ...

"Feel Great": A Revolutionary CD Program to Reduce Stress, Negativity and Anxiety!

"Feel Great" is the ultimate program for eliminating stress, anxiety and negativity from your mind, body and relationships. In just thirty minutes, you will feel relaxed, de-stressed, more positive and able to relate from a more focused core center ... a truly remarkable "personal time out" from the stresses of daily living. Soothing suggestions combined with healing music, this relaxation program calms mental, emotional and physical stress and pain at the deepest levels. Suggestions are audible, not subliminal, and can be used for thirty or sixty minutes. For more info, click here ...


FREE copy of "Feel Great" with ANY order! We are so convinced of the benefits that this CD program provides that we will send you one with any order of any amount. Once you use it, you will want to continue with it everyday ... whether in the morning, after work, or before bedtime. Take advantage of this special offer! Just specify upon check out or email me directly at and I will ship it free of charge. Order today!

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"Deep Feeling Therapy: Healing Emotional Pain"  

Am amazing introduction and guide to Deep Feeling Therapy is now at  Featured on Strange Universe, this video explores the benefits of the deep feeling process and demonstrates, under my guidance, an actual feeling session in my office. It's incredible and powerful video that will answer many of your questions about Deep Feeling Therapy and bring you up close to the process. Click here to see the video ...


"Managing your Anger: Just Don't Dump It ... Work It Out!"

Angry ... frustrated? Don't dump your anger on those around you when you can work it effectively in a therapy session. Watch my colleague, during my guest appearance on the Marilu Henner Show, as she demonstrates the most productive way to work and resolve anger. Click here to see the video ...


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Paul J. Hannig, Ph.D.