Published by Paul J. Hannig, Ph.D.


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"Do You Really Know?"


Do you really know your Self at the deepest levels?

Do you really know your mate ... your partner ... your spouse?

To know or not to know is the question. In the biblical sense, Adam knew his wife; and she conceived (Genesis 4:1). Man and woman knowing each other sexually is only one aspect of true "Knowing." Sexual knowing is necessary for procreation and in a great relationship it is essential for establishing the pleasure bond and the deep intimacy required for "True Knowledge" of the other and the self.

But, "Knowing" is much more than just the pleasure bond of sexuality, affection and closeness. There is the deep knowing of the true and real person in your partnership. So, what am I recommending?

I recommend that you study yourself at the deepest levels. I also recommend that you study your partner or your future partner at the deepest levels. Do this and you will marvel at the great adventure of truly knowing your self and your possible soulmate.

It takes a lot of time and effort to study oneself and the depth of the significant other. Sometimes, that study may lead you or your partner to discover that knowing certain parts of the self are not very rewarding. Such discoveries can lead to the dark side of the self and then a struggle may ensue. The outcome can be quite disastrous. But, the good news is: that out of every situation there always comes a new beginning ... a new opportunity to reach for happiness and the heights of existence.

A word of warning: Make sure that your "Knowledge/Knowing" of your self and your would be partner is not based on unreal or false perception. Your creation of yourself and your partner is formulated in your mind. If your mind is not clear and in tune to higher cosmic realities, you will "manufacture" a conception of yourself and your partner that is false. It is quite common for relationships and marriages to break up, when one partner feels that the other partner didn't really know the true self of both participants.



For more information on conversations check out my book "Sizzling Relationships: the 401(k) of Love" at PsychotherapyHELP. "Sizzling Relationships" takes the guesswork out of building and maintaining a sizzling relationship by providing very powerful and specific guidelines. When was the last time you researched how to relate to your significant other, boss, child, or friend in a more productive, constructive way? To read an excerpt from "Sizzling Relationships", click here ...


For information on how to deal with personality disorders, check out my book "Coping With The Disorder".It is a step-by-step guide on how to deal with and address personality disordered behavior, whether in yourself or others. No matter what disorder you are dealing with, this new manual will give you the techniques on how to heal yourself and deal with othersTo read an excerpt from "Coping with the Disorder", click here ...


Mood and personality disorders can be the "Love Killers" of any relationship. Knowledge about the disorder and in-depth therapy can make a difference. To know more about the different mood and personality disorders and how to deal with them, click here ...


Please contact me if you need help. That's why my web site is called PsychotherapyHELP. From Telephone Therapy to in office consultations, there is a therapy program designed to suit your needs. Email or call 818-882-7404 for more information.


Warmest regards,

Dr. Paul