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Published by Paul J. Hannig,
Ph.D.
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"The Real You and the Unreal
Self"
If you have ever noticed babies crying in the crib,
you will probably see that they are either lying on their stomach or on their
back. This deep whole body crying is fully expressed in the lying down
position. The baby is in the full primal state, expressing its feelings and
needs. It is using the only language that it knows; the primordial, deep
feeling, full body, uninhibited scream.
At this stage, the baby is totally real. However,
over time, the baby learns that there is a social world outside of its
primal/primordial real self. As the child grows, it learns to sit up and
eventually walk. Language is acquired by the age of two. The child has been in
the formative stages of developing a social self. If It's
real needs have not been fully met, the child begins to split off and construct
an unreal self manifested by a social façade.
If real needs have not
been lovingly responded to in a consistent way, the child opts to develop
strategies for getting needs met symbolically. The seeds of dysfunction and
disorder have been sown and extreme repression becomes part of the personality.
At some later point in life, the adult may become
acutely aware that he/she has been cut off and out of touch with deep feelings.
The split has completely formed and the real self gets buried underneath a
false front.
So, what is the answer? It is a return to the
original position of one's infancy by lying down and allowing those repressed, unexpressed feelings and needs to be fully
exploded out in a therapeutic primordial deep feeling experience. Once the
technique of lying down is established, one can only be real. This occurs,
especially if one uses music to gain access to the deeper feelings. Giving
permission to the self to fully feel is a crucial step towards unlocking the
mental and physical blockages/defenses that hold the real self in the deepest
parts of consciousness and the body.
This lying down position in the context of fully
expressing the deepest real self, eliminates all of the physical and mental
defenses that keep one from the deepest and truest real self. The way to total
transcendence is inward, outward and upward. The peak experience of full
insight and integration clears the mind, spirit and
body of the repressed feelings that were not allow full expression and
integration in earlier life.
The other part of the equation is that if one
becomes a superstar or an expert at expediting the deep feeling experience, the
entire realm of absolute reality and universal knowledge and insight becomes
available. Clarity, wisdom, insight and the utter joy of paradise/heaven
becomes a reality here on earth. Who wouldn't want that?
So, it is not asking too much for people to come
out of their usual sitting up positions and reliance on words..... to lie down, put on the music, open up the self and delve
into the magical, magnificent, marvelous, unlimited universe of the self.
Divinity resides there and it only requires the movement beyond the ordinary
limits of ego time and space.
Question: Can this be done over the telephone?
Answer: Absolutely! As long as the individual can
provide the safe uninhibited sound secured sanctuary, plus music, desire and
willingness for getting down on the floor, in the lying position and allowing
the deep feelings to emerge and be fully expressed. An inhibited personality
will have an inhibited environment, where deep feelings are not allowed to be
expressed. That would just be another recapitulation of one's past blockages to
full feeling and need responsiveness.
Conclusion: Get the music, drop the inhibitions,
provide the physical sanctuary space, open the body, and let the good times
roll. You will experience the most effective transformation in the universe.
Resources:
If you want
more information on Feeling Therapy, then check out "Feeling
People" at PsychotherapyHELP.
"Feeling People" is an exciting and powerful excursion into the way
deep core feeling can profoundly change and transform your life. The message in
the book is clear: it is absolutely possible, through the feeling process, to
reverse the effects of original pain and lead a fully integrated, successful and
happy life with yourself and others. It is the cornerstone of my Feeling
Therapy Program and I highly recommend its reading. For more information on my
Feeling Therapy Program, click here ... Please note that
Feeling Therapy can be done over the telephone within the context of Telephone
Therapy.
For
more information on relationships check out my book "Sizzling
Relationships: the 401(k) of Love" at PsychotherapyHELP.
"Sizzling Relationships" takes the guesswork out of building and
maintaining a sizzling relationship by providing very powerful and
specific guidelines. When was the last time you researched how to
relate to your significant other, boss, child, or friend in a more
productive, constructive way? To
read an excerpt from "Sizzling Relationships", click here ...
For
information on how to deal with personality disorders, check out my
book "Coping
With The Disorder".It is a step-by-step guide on how to deal
with and address personality disordered behavior, whether in yourself or
others. No matter what disorder you are dealing with, this new manual will
give you the techniques on how to heal yourself and deal with others. To
read an excerpt from "Coping with the Disorder", click here ...
Mood and personality disorders can
be the "Love Killers" of any relationship. Knowledge about the disorder and
in-depth therapy can make a difference. To
know more about the different mood and personality disorders and how to
deal with them, click here ...
Seeking therapy but cannot find a
therapist of your choice locally? Call me to discuss Telephone Therapy. My Telephone
Therapy program has been a successful counterpart of my private
practice for years, as it reaches out to help those in need and
provides my expertise to all regardless of location. Don't let the lack of
a professional in your area hold you back from becoming all that you can be. For more information
on Telephone Therapy, click here ... One phone call is
all it takes!
Please contact me if you need
help. That's why
my web site is called PsychotherapyHELP. From
Telephone Therapy to office consultations, there is a therapy program designed
to meetyour needs. Email or call 818-882-7404 for
more information.
Warmest regards,
Dr. Paul