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"Marriages Made in
Heaven"
Dr. Paul J. Hannig is an expert in creating and
understanding the "Paradisical" marriage relationship. He and his
wife Reisa have realized the extraordinary goal of achieving a
"Heavenly" marriage. What type of marriage do you have?
Approximately 1% of all
marriages are heavenly or "made in heaven." That leaves 99% of
most marriages something less than paradisical. David Olson Ph.D. claims that
40% of couples live in a Type 1 marriage -- a devitalized
relationship. That suggests that these partners have seriously considered
divorce due to a pervasive unhappiness with all relationship
dimensions, accompanied by considerable instability. Basically, they are
extremely critical of and reactive to each other's personality. They stay
together for lack of choices.
Type 2 constitues 11% of couples. They
are financially focused, dissatisfied with certain characteristics of their
partner and they may engage in bitter attacks. Financial rewards hold them
together. That is there one single strength. Dr. Hannig has counseled these
Type 2 financially focused couples and noticed extreme deficits in their
communication and lack of empathy for one another's deepest feelings and
concerns. They tend to hold the other partner responsible for the problems in
the relationship and do not recognize the dual contributions to instability.
Type 3 constitute 14% of all couples and
are basically dissatisfied with many facets of their relationship. These
include personality issues, communication problems, weaknesses in conflict
resolution and sexual unfulfillment. Dr. Hannig teaches these couples how to
communicate honestly, become experts at problem resolution, and achieve sexual
fulfillment of the heavenly type.
Type 4 marriages are traditional and
constitute 10% of the population. These people are moderately satisfied
with some aspects of their relationship. However, they are usually dissatisfied
with their sexuality and intimate contact, as well as their communication
systems. Conversational skills lack effective strategies. They usually have
good relationships with extended family and friends and they do not engage in
critical personality attacks.
Type 5 marriages constitute about 8% of
the population and are fairly balanced. The participants show real strengths in
communication and problem-solving. Their biggest problem is usually financial
management. They tend to place a high value on the family. Dr. Hannig is very
effective in helping these couples attain a deeper and richer emotional life.
These people are usually stable enough to handle deep exploration and
expression of the real self. They are possible candidates for reaching the
heavenly union state. They are capable of clearing out old unresolved,
repressed emotional pain.
Type 6 marriages constitute 8 percent of
the population and are quite harmonious. These people are are very satisfied
with one another, express affection openly and their sexual life is usually
satisfying. They can be quite self-centered and somewhat narcissistic and
unable to be paradisical or heavenly parents to their children. Dr. Hannig can
help these people become great men and women, who can create offspring with the
potential for greatness.
Type 7 marriages constitute about 8% of
the population and the participants get along extremely well in every aspect of
their relationship. These people are very well integrated spiritually and
emotionally and they get along at a sensational level. They are internally very
strong and extremely flexible when it comes to problem-solving and finding
agreement in most external areas. They meet the challenges of life very well
and are fantastic problem solvers. Their relationship is alive and dynamic.
Then there is the heavenly
paradisical union - Type 8. These individuals constitute less than 1% of
the population and for all intents and purposes, their relationship is
ecstatic, blissful and at times capable of creating a personal paradise in
their union. They have truly returned to the garden and they understand the
true emotional and spiritual dimensions of a heavenly existence in their union.
Their communication is beyond excellent. Their sexuality is magnificent and
ever fresh and constantly being renewed. As they age, they fall more and more
in love with one another and are thrilled with the new discoveries that they
make in the essence of each other. They tend to adore, idolize, worship and
respect the true personhood of the partner. The relationship and its integrity
is of the ultimate importance and they are dedicated to knowing and fulfilling
one another's most important and crucial needs. They are superlative
communicators and extremely empathic listeners. Their emotional, social and
intimacy skills are at the genius level. As parents, they are beyond the
biblical/spiritual ideal. Their children achieve greatness.
What type of marriage are you?
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Don't forget to contact me if you need help. That's
why my web site is called PsychotherapyHELP. From Telephone Therapy to in
office consultations, there is a therapy program designed to suit your needs.
Email or call 818-882-7404 for more information.
Warmest regards,
Dr. Paul