Paul J. Hannig, Ph.D. MFCC
PSYCHOTHERAPYHELP NEWS
What Type of Relationship Do You Have?
There are several types of male-female relationships. They
usually proceed in the following order: passionate, compassionate and
companionate. If your relationship is stable and capable of growing, you and
your partner will proceed and evolve through the three stages. That doesn't
mean that there will be smooth sailing all the way. But, stable relationships
usually evolve in this order and integrate each stage into the other. Couples
that have been together for a long time maintain their passion, consistently
express compassion for one another and provide need fulfilling companionship.
Tip #1: Avoiding the Power Play
The power play is a common strategy that most humans employ
in their interactions with one another. It goes largely unnoticed and is
energized on an unconscious level. A person will employ a destructive power
play whenever they are feeling threatened or in danger. You can see many
different species of animals employing the power play whenever they sense
danger and need to find a way to eliminate a real or perceived threat. Anger,
rage and aggression are usually associated with a loss of power and an urgent
need to gain control of power.
One way of neutralizing a power play is to initiate an
empathic strategic response. It diffuses the power play and the powerlessness
of the power player, and usually changes the interaction (although, feelings of
distress may remain).
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Telephone Therapy is highly successful. There's no need to
go beyond the comfort, convenience, and privacy of your home. For more
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Uniquely different from traditional talk therapy, Deep
Feeling Therapy allows for the full expression of deeply buried hurts and
emotions so that long standing disorders are resolved and healed at the most
profound, core level. For more information, go to
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Deep Feeling Therapy is for those individuals who are highly
motivated to explore buried, repressed feelings and deeply commited to
re-experiencing them in a full, cathartic way.
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It is much easier for me to answer your questions by email.
In fact, I may even feature them (anonymously, of course) in one of our
newsletters, but only with your permission. So, please contact me directly at
phannigphd@socal.rr.com. Since it is difficult during therapy hours to answer
your questions by telephone, email seems to work out best. So, keep those
questions coming over the internet.
Warmest Regards,
Paul J. Hannig, Ph.D. MFCC
URL: www.nvo.com/psych_help EMAIL: phannigphd@socal.rr.com