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PSYCHOTHERAPYHELP NEWS
Separation Counseling: Questions from the Heart
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IN THIS ISSUE
* Separation
Counseling
* A New You is
Emerging
* Rising from the Pain
* Finding your
Soulmate
* The Wrong One
* Sizzling
Relationships
Greetings!
Separation Counseling can help you with important
transitions in your relationship life. I've received so many questions about it
that I want to share some of my answers with you. In this newsletter, I feature
the most common concerns that have been voiced. As always, keep emailing me
your questions so that I can feature them in upcoming newsletters.
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SEPARATION COUNSELING
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You may be about to end one phase of your life. Endings also
mark a new beginning ... hopefully one that is filled with growth, improvement
and advancement. Separation Counseling helps you go from an ending to a new
beginning. For example, we are cosmic creatures who possess the DNA blueprint
of the universe. Stars die and new ones are born from them. Our star, the sun,
is a second or third generation evolutionary creation. Without the destruction
of our previous cosmic progenitors, we would not be here right now. Whether
that is an advancement or not, I'll leave up to you. But, irrevocability, we
are a unique and new creation. So, using the star analogy, the light of your
previous relationship is going out and a new star will be born.
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A NEW "YOU" IS EMERGING
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Question: "I have gotten very fat and our of shape
during my last marriage. How can I change my self and get back into life and
find a new partner?"
Just like the star that burned-out and created a new sun,
your body deteriorates and you will need a very highly coordinated plan to
rehabilitate your body, mind, emotions and strategies. The ending of your
burned-out marriage signals a separation and new birth. This process requires
intensive self examination, restructuring, and disintegration of the old
enmeshments and fusions. Breaking the old bonds is a complex, sometimes painful
but necessary prerequisite for building a new you and a new life. You are about
to enter a new stage of preparation for higher states of consciousness and a
more fulfilling soul bonding.
Some relationships are like bodies. They get misshapened.
Reshaping yourself is like resculpting an older work of art. What was once a
lump of clay can now become a new creation.
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RISING FROM THE PAIN
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Question: "I am in such pain! Am I really going to come
out of this as a new work of art?"
Most definitely! Separation counseling is extremely
effective for helping you become a new work of art. You are just about to enter
the next stage for soulmate preparation and reconnection. A new life and a new
self will be reshaped and given new breath. The Divine resides within and you
are about to rededicate the temple of your soul.
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FINDING YOUR SOULMATE
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Question: "How will I know when I have found the right
one?"
A soulmate is one who makes you want to do the righteous
thing. Fun to be with, a soulmate brings out the very best in you. There is no
contention, argumentative-ness or evil, gloomy, depressed spirits in a soulmate
relationship. The soulmate has a core filled with Divine light and the brilliance
of the cosmic source. A soulmate does not create trouble. The soulmate brings
blessings, skills, talents and creative energies that sparks your love,
admiration and respect. A soulmate is completely flexible and pliant -- not
hard and brittle. He or she can bend and give in to those matters that cannot
be conceded. A soulmate knows how to avoid making major issues out of common
occurrences and is a source of marital/relationship joy and a tonic for marital
and relationship strife.
A soulmate has no investment in creating warfare. Bullets
are returned with flowers. and sweetness overcomes any kind of firepower. A
soulmate is a peacemaker, a troublshooter and knows how to defuse warfare. A
soulmate knows how to sit down and work out every issue in the most amiable
fashion.
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THE WRONG ONE
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Question: So, what is not a soulmate?
A non-soulmate is like a tinderbox ... it only takes a spark
to light off a huge explosion. Love, compassion, creativity, peace and mutual
deep satisfaction do not embody a non-soulmate's being. Relationship permanance
and joy are not at the core of the relationship ... chaos and instability reign
in a non-soulmate relationship.
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SIZZLING RELATIONSHIPS!
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It is hard to believe that millions of people get married
every single day and very few have learned the fundamentals of marriage. It is
common truth that you cannot master anything until you learn the basic
fundamentals. Yet, our culture does not provide an effective vehicle for
coaching people how to successfully navigate the mysterious waters of
fulfilling, ecstatic marital relationships. Such matters are left to chance.
"Sizzling Relationships/Ecstatic Marriages" is the
definitive manual that takes the guesswork out of building and maintaining a
sizzling marriage by providing very powerful and specific guidelines for its
achievement.
Make these marriage fundamentals the foundation of your
relationship and take your relationship to new heights of ecstasy and intimacy
by following Dr. Paul's guidelines.
To purchase "Sizzling Relationships/Ecstatic
Marriages", go to http://www.nvo.com/psych_help/services/item.nhtml?profile=services&UID=82
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QUICK LINKS
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To learn more about Separation Counseling, go to
http://www.nvo.com/psych_help/separationcounseling/
To read more about Personality Disorders, go to
http://www.nvo.com/psych_help/mood1anxiety1personalitydisorders/
Have you read "Soulmates from Hell"? If you are in
such a relationship, I recommend my book "Coping with the Disorder".
For more info about "Coping with the Disorder", go to
http://www.nvo.com/psych_help/services/item.nhtml?profile=services&UID=60
Telephone Therapy is highly successful. There's no need to
go beyond the comfort, convenience, and privacy of your home. For more info, go
to http://www.nvo.com/psych_help/telephonetherapy/
Explore PsychotherapyHELP by going to
http://www.nvo.com/psych_help/door/. Download free articles, gather in-depth
information, and email me with your questions.
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It is much easier for me to answer your questions by email.
In fact, I may even feature them (anonymously, of course) in one of our
newsletters, but only with your permission. So, please contact me directly at
phannigphd@socal.rr.com. Since it is difficult during therapy hours to answer
your questions by telephone, email seems to work out best. So, keep those
questions coming over the internet.
Warmest Regards,
Paul J. Hannig, Ph.D. MFCC
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