Paul J. Hannig, PhD. MFT
EXCITED ABOUT YOU!”
your Life … your Sex Life … your Spouse … your Marriage
... your Work …
I'll bet there were times in your life when YOU were very EXCITED about
something. Do you remember how that felt? Resurrect those feelings and memories
when you felt excited about something. You probably believed that there was
some sort of external stimulus that caused you to feel excited. But, what if I
were to tell you that your excitement was created by the most important person
in your life -- You!
Yes, that's true! You made a decision to get excited about you and your life.
When you talk to your spouse on the phone, do you choose
the words that excite you and your partner or do you use the same old
non-feeling, lifeless clichés and phrases? Do you INFUSE your children with
your excitement about their future possibilities? How about the people that you
work with? Do you MOTIVATE them to get excited about working with you and
living their lives to the fullest?
guidelines are dedicated to putting YOU back in High Emotional Gear!
POWER! It is in your conscious choice to decide to inject your buried
excitement into your life, your conversations, your job and your most important
relationships---- Your marriage, your children, co-workers, and the people who
come in contact with you during the course of your life.
- USE THE EXCITEMENT YOU WERE BORN WITH! Picture in your mind a small
child who can hardly speak language. Yet, he is so filled with enthusiasm,
energy and excitement. Even, when he is sick, he can't wait to get up and
do things with excitement.
- Where does all that Dynamic Energy come from? It's innate! Yes, that's
right. It's wired in by evolution. Children are born with innate
excitement for everything. It isn't until the world starts to curb this
extreme excitement, that these kids calm down and becomes civilized. Hey! You were once a kid. Did you know that that kid is
still inside of you trying to come out and get excited about something?
Maybe, it is time for you to acknowledge that you want to get Excited About You. Is it time to put excitement into your
marriage, your work and the very essence of who you are?
- GET EXCITED ABOUT LIVING! Did you know that the WORLD
wants and needs YOU to get excited about life? If you could be honest with
yourself for one minute, you would admit that you need to inject some of
that excitement into your life, your marriage, and your work. Why are
you holding back?
Somewhere along the way, you lost your excitement for living. Perhaps, you
were waiting for Santa Claus or God to come along and inject enthusiasm
into your spirit. Well, if that's what it takes, then ask Santa Claus or
God to bring life back into your life. Just the mere fact of asking will
put you in the position of receiving. You are not helpless and powerless.
So, stop being the only drag on your life and make the long-awaited
decision to get excited about living.
- CELEBRATE YOUR LIFE! To Life, to Life, L'Chaym.. l'Chayim.. L'Chayim..
to Life.... Etc. etc. I guess Tevya,
from Fiddler On The Roof knew something when he
sang that song even though he was poor and getting up in years. He found
something to celebrate -- his life! You are alive. Isn't it time to
celebrate that fact? Treating your life as something precious and rare
gives you reason to get excited and grateful about being alive. Do you
excite your spouse with your excitement? Do you excite your children with
your excitement for life? Do you excite your co-workers with your absolute
passion for what you're doing?
- GET THE PAIN OUT OF THE WAY! Cry and release the feelings
that keep you from getting excited about life. If you are emotionally and
spiritually dead, you did that to you. You can change that, simply by
making the decision to live.
- Infuse your life with passion, excitement and dynamic energy. I don't mean that you should get manic. That's going overboard and
besides the crash could kill you. I mean going to the very core of
yourself and expressing those feelings that will allow you to worship life
and deciding that you are going to live it to the fullest.
- BE GRATEFUL! Stop the self-pity and the drowning in your own
self-created problems. Thank life for all that it has given to you and
will continue to give you. The alternative stinks!
- Stop blaming God for all of your misfortune. By now, you know that blaming
doesn't accomplish anything. But, expressing gratitude for everything that
you are and will be can free you up to love and be successful in whatever
you choose to infuse yourself in. If it's your
marriage, your job-- what ever! Decide to make "It" work. So, if
you get stuck, work your way through the frustration, talk to who you have
to talk to and brainstorm solutions. Give up unfair fight tactics like
"Yes, but... I'm right, you're wrong... He said, she said.... He did
this, she did that... I'm good, you’re bad.... I'm the victim, you're the
devil... I'm well, your sick "
- LIVE YOUR DREAMS! Did you know that successful
people get to be successful because of their excitement? Years ago, a
young teenager swept floors in a North Philadelphia
ghetto car painting shop. He learned how to get excited about his own
goals. Today, his car painting franchises cover the national map. Right
now there is a 24-year-old stock boy who has a handicap. But, he has
excitement for life. His enthusiasm and love of life will take him up the
career ladder and someday he may be the CEO of one of the largest chain
stores in the universe. Everybody starts at the bottom. But, excitement
will drive you to the top of your potentials, your dreams, your ambitions,
and your goals. There is no stopping you, except you! Decide what you want
and decide that you are going to get there and how you are going to do it.
- DEVELOP A PLAN! Without a plan, you will fail.
It doesn't matter whether you are a housewife, college student, midlevel
corporate manager or a vagrant on the street. If you fail to plan, you
plan to fail.
- Marriage on the rocks? Save it and put it into the stratosphere. It's either
hell or heaven. You choose! Superior planning is the only way to take yourself out of the rut and catapult yourself into the
world of relationship ecstasy.
- Want a blissful relationship? Plan and work hard for it. Choose only those
strategies that work and eliminate what contaminates your life, your work
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- Learn from the experts! They started at the bottom and learned how to excite
themselves about their work, marriages and family life. The man who created this program, built an empire of
happiness, joy and successful relationships. He knows the secrets just
like other successful people who have enthusiastically dedicated
themselves to learning what makes things work.
- PRIORITIZE YOUR NEEDS! Do you have a plan and a
method for working on yourself, your career, and your most important relationships?
Make a list of your most important needs. Be honest about your needs and
be willing to communicate them to other people who are in a position of
fulfilling them. Make it a priority to prioritize. If you don't
prioritize, you disorganize. Stop neglecting yourself by putting everyone
else before you. Develop a plan for working on yourself. If you neglect
your inner light, you lose your feelings, your spirit and your source of
insight. Make it a habit to work on yourself, your relationships, and your
work every single day. Study the approaches to self-centering and
connection to your inner source. Pick the methods that work for you and
give yourself full permission to experiment. There is no success without
research. Get excited about researching your full connection to yourself.
- MAKE DECISIONS AND DON’T
PROCRASTINATE! Make a conscious decision about what areas of your life
you need to work on. Whatever you neglect will come back to haunt you
later. If you are not working on your marriage, yourself and your career,
your procrastination will make you pay a big price later. If you aren't
excited about the most important things in your life, you'll need a
mechanic later on, to fix what's broken. It's time to pay attention to
what you need to "Get." If you missed it the first time around,
you'll need a touch up refresher course to excite you to the possibilities.
Fortunately, events in life revolve in a circular pattern. What goes
around comes around and you need to get excited about accomplishing your
goals right now. Get
- TAKE COMPLETE CONTROL OVER YOUR LIFE! You need to take complete
control of your time if you want to have control over your life. A successful life is one
where you have control over the events that make up your life. These
events take place within time. Of course, you'll tell me that you don't
have enough time to do what you feel needs to be done. This usually means
that what is really important to you never gets accomplished because you
have never learned how to prioritize and organize the events in your life.
Procrastination is a nasty visitor who stays for a long time and you never
end up doing what you need to do. By prioritizing and organizing the
events in your 24-hour day, nothing important will be neglected. Things of
lesser priority may have to be sacrificed a little bit until you bring
yourself up to snuff. The results will bring inner peace, an ecstatic
sense of self, a blissful married life, and a family of joy and
I am not
saying that you should be perfect and problem free. That's not going to happen.
But, if you have a system for managing events according to your timeline, you
will be successful. Consistent daily planning increases your focus and
leverages your time. Decide to become a successful person who takes charge of
time and can control your life.
Copyright 2010, Paul J. Hannig, Ph.D.